2018 was the best and the worst year of my life.
I spent the first nine months of 2018 living in Paris and even though it wasn't all smooth sailing, it was fantastic. Probably the best time of my life.
Then, in early September, I broke up with my girlfriend (which I was planning on marrying). I put everything I had into coming back together (we didn't), and then more into climbing back out of the darkness.
It was devastating. I dealt with depression, and anxiety. I had trouble sleeping, getting out of bed, working or training. It was the first time in my life I went backwards, despite me giving it everything I had.
As Shane Parrish puts it:
That feeling when you give it all you have and life still kicks your ass.— Shane Parrish (@farnamstreet) 11 de enero de 2019
It doesn’t matter the domain, sometimes giving it everything you have isn’t enough to get the outcome you want. And it’s often not in your control. And it’s not fun. And it hurts. And it sucks. And for a moment everything seems dark.
I think I managed to climb out of the darkness without sabotaging my health, work or other relationships. But I'm still not 100% clear of it. Kind of like Frodo.
The punch was so strong and unexpected that it shook me to my core. But even though I'm still dealing with the aftermath, I came out a better person. It put me on a different path.
Now I don't have a cozy relationship to hide my insecurities behind. Now I need to face the world with everything I have.
What separates people is how they respond to adversity. And I believe I learned, and acted with integrity in every step of the way
If there is a lesson from 2018, is to add Relationships as a framework to improve. It won't guarantee an improvement, but it will put it within my sight.
Something I'm constantly thinking about is that honesty is the optimal life strategy, if iterated enough times. Over the long run, things catch up to you. This is particularly true in a relationship, where being able to tell each other everything, no matter how horrific it might be.
The Good Stuff
On a different note, 2018 was also a wonderful year. I cemented some of the habits I kicked-off in 2017, while living in Milano.
- I start my day by reading for 30-45 minutes. I read everything - from business to philosophy - so this has completely changed my outlook on things.
- My phone addiction is improving. I got into the habit of setting it in Airplane Mode right after dinner, and turn it on before lunch.
- I work out 5-6x/week, and I'm stronger and fitter than ever. 180kg deadlift, 130kg back squat, 100kg bench press and 90kg C&J.
On top of that, I managed to do a couple more things that I'm really enjoying. I wasn't expecting to do all of these, but you know, life can be surprise you.
- I perfected my french.
- I bought some land back home (in Argentina). I'm not sure if this will be an investment, or my future home, but I got it and I love it.
- I learned to ride a bike (and bought one!).
- I travelled to Singapore, Hong Kong, Val D'Isere (twice), Amboise, Tallinn, Barcelona, New York, Luxembourg, Mykonos, Athens, Punta del Este and London.
- I improved my relationship with my brother.
A healthy body is a must for me. Last year I became stronger and more mobile. In 2018, I want to go with more technical movements.
- Increase strenght and mobility - 70kg snatch ❎ I increased my strenght and my mobility, but I only got a 60kg snatch. After my break up, I had to fly back to Argentina, so I couldn't keep up with my plan.
- ~~Increase skills - 5 unbroken muscleups.
Work is a big part of my life, but I'm constantly reminding myself that it's not the only one. This year I'm graduating from little side projects to a real side business.
- Start a side business doing at least $2,000/month ❎ I started a couple side businesses, but this was late in the year. This will be part of 2019's Resolutions.
A healthy mind is as important as a healthy body. Last year, it was about travel and communication. 2018 won't be that different.
- Travel to 10 new countries ❎ Singapore, Hong Kong, Luxembourg, Greece.
- Climb Mount Kilimanjaro (or plan to) ❎ Never got to this. I wanted to do something different, something bold.
Become fluent in french.I think I nailed this one.